媽媽中午一個電話來說,婆婆(外祖母)已經“走”了。是笑喪,因她九十有七,雖不如宋美齡,但也算是一場馬拉松競技的終點。自從她於二零零三年SARS爆發時因消化系統有毛病要入醫院,到後來要搬進老人院,到這一年差不多甚麽人也不認得的時候,我們身邊的親戚:舅父家,亞姨家大慨也有點兒心酸的。
慈祥、和藹可親、從不發脾氣。。。。。。一連串正面的形容詞絡繹不絕浮現腦海中。婆婆在我兒時記憶中大部分時間住在山谷道邨,那是跟從前牛頭角同年代、但結構像後石硤尾邨年代的“H”型樓。(H中間的“一橫”是住戶公用廁所)。農曆年初一多半是她的兒孫:舅父、亞姨、姨媽家和我們家等等聚在一起回巢的日子。八十年代那居高臨下、無敵海景的維港煙花,那龐大而緩緩升降的電梯、地下的小商店、愛民邨的大排檔和用表哥那綠色monitor第一代的IBM clone PC“打遊戲機”等等不少的美好回憶,也跟婆婆和姨媽家十年前的搬遷和山谷道邨拆卸而成為歷史。姨媽早幾個月前登極樂,政府2010年六月把山谷道邨地盤變豪宅地賣掉,婆婆於數日後仙遊;緩慢的歷史巨輪彷彿突然加速,啊我童年的獅子山下印象,只能零碎地在心中尋找。
So officially both of my parents are orphans now after the passing of my maternal grandmother. Yes, it is weird to commence this posting in such a way, but that's one of the first mental reflections to the news.
To be fair, she and my step paternal grandmother were the only two granparents whom I was fortunately enough to spend time with. My paternal grandmother was killed during the bombing of Hong Kong in Second World War. My granfathers both passed away before I was born. I think both my grandmothers had difficult young adult life, though their lives were improved even before I was born.
Valley Road Estate was the anchor point for much of my childhood memories of maternal grandma. Ironically, that plot of land of the former housing estate was sold at an astronomical price to a real estate developer for construction of an expensive residential complex, just a few days before my grandma's passing. Nostalgia, of course of the extended family gatherings at grandmas, with uncles and aunts teasing me never want to leave my parents and to stay at my grandma's even for a night, versus my subsequent departure from Hong Kong and my parents for almost 2 decades. Also, were the spectacular images, as well as thundering explosions of Chinese new year fireworks at the end of the corridor, FREE OF CHARGE and OBSTRUCTION FREE, on the very top 11th floor of the humble Low Cost Housing Estate building. Time is unforgiving, burying grandma and these good memories as she was three year short of being a centenarian.